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SO TRUE....can't blame it all on the Youth. Some of them "don't have a chance" from day 1. Divorce rates thru the roof, family structure and parenting skills have gone to shehite. edr
This collection of problems - the situation our society is in - will not be improved by government grants, city-borne committees, or police departments. They cannot even put a dent in the changes that must occur to satisfy Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - Physiological, Safety, Love-Belonging, Esteem, Self-Actualization.
Parents commonly parent the way their parents did. That's where they learned it. Although some decry "I'll NEVER be like my parents/do what my parents did", largely they follow many of the paradigms of their own parents. When any segment of society is made up of terrible parents because THEY had terrible parents, the breeding ground for having terrible children who become terrible parents yields a generational crop. (I don't believe there are any terrible children, only parents/grown-ups who failed them.)
The morality that can't be legislated must include a society at large that assigns a high value to quality parenting. Government-provided/funded/tax-credited child care is not the same thing as quality parenting. Blaming the government-provided education system for its shortcomings and blaming teachers doing their best are not the same thing as quality parenting.
Quality parenting includes providing adequate care, being available and committed to proper guidance and support (teaching right from wrong, subjective as that may be these days), providing opportunities to learn about the world and providing broad opportunities to participate in it beyond the household/the neighborhood/the city. "Provide" is the operative word in all of these.
Two-parent families can manage these things more easily than single-parent families. This has been known for generations.
Fostering the conditions that allow and encourage two-parent participatory parenting in every household must become an emphatic priority. Eliminating governmental and societal obstacles and impediments to quality parenting must be the order of the day so that parents are positioned securely to provide for their children.
Doris Turvey Hansel, if the only criminals and bad actors in our society were all from broken homes, you might have a point. The fact remains that very good parents who raise their children with all of the tenets you listed, still produce some nefarious, greedy, selfish, immoral, amoral, and often criminal children. There are also millions of "broken" homes who manage to raise wonderful, gifted, decent, moral children. Anyone in a school system has seen all of the stripes come through. Good kids go bad, and not always because of what is at home.
"Risk factors for violence are not static. Their predictive value changes depending on when they occur in a young person's development, in what social context, and under what circumstances. Risk factors may be found in the individual, the environment, or the individual's ability to respond to the demands or requirements of the environment. Some factors come into play during childhood or even earlier, whereas others do not appear until adolescence. Some involve the family, others the neighborhood, the school, or the peer group. Some become less important as a person matures, while others persist throughout the life span. To complicate the picture even further, some factors may constitute risks during one stage of development but not another. Finally, the factors that predict the onset of violence are not necessarily the same as those that predict the continuation or cessation of violence."
No successful adult did not also have people in their lives pushing, teaching, encouraging, helping and mentoring them and it was very often not just in the home. This is why the "five domains: individual, family, peer group, school, and community, which includes both the neighborhood and the larger society" caused us to realize "it takes a village."
While it could be true that no community, state or federal assistance can change it, it might also be true that we would be much worse off without them. How you, or anyone else purports to "teach parents" would be an interesting fantasy, I'm sure.
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